May is Foster Care Awareness Month and the Adoption Center is kicking off our 50th-anniversary celebration! Join us throughout the year as we share updates from the families we've helped come together, introduce you to the team behind the scenes, and bring together our supporters who make it all possible! We will also have special events such as a virtual run/walk, kicking-off May 15th. Our success depends on you, so thanks to you and all of generous supporters!
What does 2021 hold for the work of the Adoption Center? We enter this new year with the same resolve; to fulfill our mission to create permanent environments for the children in foster care. In this challenging time, we are adapting our work to create virtual events for the families to meet the children who are ready for adoption. We are hopeful to be able to return to in-person matching events later during this year. We have plans to resume our podcast again as we know that the information about foster care adoption is a valuable service to provide to our community.
Families are a critical resource for the population of children in foster care who need a new foster or adoptive parent. There are not enough homes to serve all the children who need a place, that is why in 2021 we will focus on holding on to those families who contact us for information about how to start the process of foster/adoption. Our retention of families will help all the communities we serve in Pennsylvania, New Jersey and Delaware.
We are connecting to organizations like ours who are serving the same population of children in foster care to find new partnerships, collaborations and joint efforts. These relationships will only make our impact greater and our work in the community deeper. Our focus in 2021 and the questions we must ask: how can we do what we do better? Is what we are doing achieving the desired outcomes? Our work for the children in foster care and the families who enter the process is important and honestly evaluating our progress is one way to achieve our goals and grow in the process.
Often when families think about adoption, the first thought that comes to mind is of infants or younger children. Sometimes families are hesitant about adopting older youth due to the fear of the unknown. For some, the thought is "will it be difficult to foster a teenager?" or "Will a teenager adjust to living in a new home with new rules?" The reality is teenagers need loving forever homes too! Just like younger children, teenagers thrive emotionally and socially from the secure attachment offered by their caregivers. According to research completed on interpersonal neurobiology (2015), the type of attachment a child forms at an early age impacts their ability to form adult relationships. If a child does not form a secure attachment with their caregiver during the early stages of life, the child’s brain can still be nurtured during early adolescence to alter the way they form attachment bonds. Older youth in foster care often believe that the older they get, the less likely they will be adopted by a family. This mindset instills fear in the teenager that they will never find a family because they are too old. Eventually, they give up hope, and the lack of hope creates a lack of enthusiasm.
In Pennsylvania, there is a large number of youth aging out of the foster care system without the skills they need to thrive as adults. Nationally, among older youth, 32% age out of foster care without being reunited or connected with family. Foster care makes youth so dependent on their caseworkers and staff that when they get out on their own, they are lost because they are required to do everything for themselves without family or permanent connections that they can depend on when they need help. Teenagers who age out of the foster care system without a family must fill the void of not having a mom or dad to come home to or having someone to call at the end of the day. For the youth facing the world alone with no one to support their journey into adulthood is tough because the fact is everyone needs someone or a place to call home.
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The mission of National Adoption Month is to celebrate the families who have grown through adoption, while drawing attention to the 125,000 children in foster care who are still looking for forever families. For over two decades, National Adoption Month has been promoted and celebrated across the country. National, state, and local agencies, as well as nonprofits and family groups, raise awareness and educate their communities through programs, events, and activities.
This year's theme, "Engage Youth: Listen and Learn," will highlight the importance of supporting older youth in foster care. Teenagers are often overlooked and experience many placements that result in a higher chance of aging out of the system without a permanent family. Securing lifelong connections for teens in foster care is critical to ensuring a bright and healthy future. While the country is facing these challenging times, it is more important than ever that children in foster care have our support to make sure their voices are heard.
Each week throughout November, we will be sharing stories of children who have met their forever families through the Adoption Center and some of the biggest challenges facing the foster care system today on our blog. You can also find information on the foster care/adoptive process and the different ways that you can support children in foster here.
If you are looking for more information, we are here to help, support, and guide not just in November but throughout the year contact us at email@example.com or 215.735.9988.
Children all over America are feeling anxious, unsettled and unsafe because of the fast-escalating spread of the coronavirus. Younger children are reverting back to outgrown behaviors such as thumb-sucking and bathroom accidents. Teenagers are experiencing dramatic mood swings and becoming more fearful and irritable.
So imagine the challenge of these unprecedented times on children in foster care—those in private homes and those in group residences. “These are children who have already experienced trauma and loss because they were separated from their birth families,” says Janaeyah Reid, an adoption and permanency worker with Gemma, an organization that serves vulnerable children and families in Philadelphia and its suburbs. “Disruption of normal activities such as school, social distancing from friends and fear of getting sick themselves feels overwhelming and difficult to process,” says Reid.
“And now they are separated from their supports—the people they have come to know and rely on. Working with them virtually can’t bring them the comfort, healing and sense of safety they absolutely need. And we can’t tell them it will be better next week or next month because we don’t know that it will.”
Child welfare staff are grappling with what to do now…how do they deliver by phone or video conversations the human connection they have built with the children? How can a telephone call take the place of a once-a-week face-to-face visit with a reassuring psychiatrist that a child is just beginning to trust?
The toll on social workers is physical and emotional. They worry about getting sick themselves and putting their families at risk. Child welfare workers in New York, Washington, Michigan and other states have already tested positive for the virus. What will it take to usher the most vulnerable children through this crisis? And what will the fallout be? What are the implications for the future?
Meanwhile, the message from mental health practitioners for those in child welfare is to keep calm and avoid panic. Panic is more easily transmitted to children than the virus itself.
Today we are going to talk about why it’s important to try to keep sibling groups together. We know that it is not always possible to keep a sibling group together, but we wanted to talk about some of the benefits it can have if you are able to.
The National Center for Youth Law explains that when entering the foster care system, children can lose their sense of identity and feel detached from their culture. They can feel lost and become anxious as they are experiencing a lot of change and uncertainty. These feelings can be subsided in the rare circumstances when siblings can remain together in the foster care system. The National Center for Youth Law also found that sibling groups that stay together can help each other “provide emotional support, companionship, and comfort”. By keeping siblings together, they can help each other through this emotionally challenging time with their shared experience and support.
These children’s lives have just been altered in a major way, so by keeping them with their siblings, you will help relieve that stress a bit and keep some sense of normalcy in this uncertain time. By being together they provide emotional support for each other while keeping their biological connection strong. This offers youth that are part of a sibling group more stability and a sense of safety. In most cases, siblings placed together are more resilient, feel safe to share their experiences, and begin to understand love is unconditional.
It is also important to assess each situation individually because in rare cases it is better to separate siblings. For example, if a sibling is abusive to their other siblings. Be sure to work closely with your social worker to determine what is best for you and the children.
If you have questions about how you can keep sibling groups together, or how to adopt sibling groups please do not hesitate to reach out. If you have any questions about the adoption process or The Adoption Center, give us a call or send us an email.
Hello there! My name is McKenziee, and I’m a new volunteer joining the Adoption Center family. I am
really excited to join this incredible community and learn from all of you and hear your stories. I
also hope to be a resource of information about the adoption process, fostering, our events, and
interesting things happening in the adoption and foster community.
A little bit about me. I am a senior in college studying media studies and production with a
passion in educational and medical media productions. Ever since I was young I have wondered
about the adoption process and I have always wanted to help those in the foster care system.
Recently, a friend of mine mentioned that their family was considering adoption and it rekindled
my curiosity about my own interest in adopting one day. So I decided to take the next step and
learn more about it, while being able to help those in the foster care system as well. I am excited
to see where this journey takes me and look forward to both learning from you and becoming a
If you have any questions about the Adoption Center, or would like to feature your story do not
hesitate to reach out. I look forward to hearing from you!
Have you met Karli? Her mom struggles with substance abuse, and she is in foster care. Karli is not a real child…she’s a six-year-old Muppet with yellow pigtails made of ostrich feathers. The creators of Sesame Street introduced her on the show last month. They did it because more than 400,000 children are in foster care in this country, and it is estimated that nearly 80% of those cases involve substance abuse. In the video, “Sesame Street in the Community,” available only online, Elmo’s dad explains to him that Karli’s mother has a disease called addiction that can make people act in ways they can’t control. Elmo and Karli talk together about “grown-up problems” and how sharing them can help when you’re frightened or sad. The videos show that Karli’s mother is getting treatment, and the rest of the neighborhood’s adults, kids and Muppets help Karli cope. What will the impact be when a time-honored show like Sesame Street tackles one of the country’s most significant problems? The producers want to know and so do we.
To hear Karli and her "for now family" sing about finding a place for oneself: